Jealousy is a solution (It’ll make sense, I promise.)


We’ve all been there at some point in our lives. Some of us, can get over it quite easily while the rest of us, are subject to one of the most annoying emotions ever, at a rather irksome frequency. It’s natural to have this emotion once in a blue moon. Of course, like anything, too much of it, and it turns into a problem. To stop any problem we must first know what it is. So, what is jealousy exactly?
Jealousy is an emotion that:
1. Comes from distrust in yourself or in others.
2. Can affect any relationship in your life, not just sexual ones. 
3. Can be a solution.
Now, when I said it’s a solution, I never meant that it was a well, thought out solution. Jealousy is a rash solution we turn to when we feel vulnerable and can think of no better options at the time. Instead of competing for attention or letting your jealousy build up until you’re projecting harsh words of anger, Clinical Psychologist, Susan Heitler, has a better idea:

I invite my client, “Close your eyes.” Closed eyes enable people to focus inward.

I ask then the forward-looking question, “If you look at your jealousy in the best possible light, what is the jealousy intended to accomplish?”

Once we know what concern the “solution” of jealousy is meant to address, we can work together to create new options for solving the problem.

To conquer jealousy, we have to think of it not as an overwhelming emotion, but as a simple mistake that we can correct. And if we take Dr. Heitler’s advice, we are still capable of getting what we truly want out of our mistakes. 


The Kinsey Scale (With a Bit of Sass)


The Kinsey Scale, for those of you who do not know, is a scale that was invented in 1948 that was designed to attempt to explain an individual’s sexual orientation at a given time. Rather than labels like heterosexual,homosexual, and bisexual, the scale rates you 0-6. (0 being 100% heterosexual while 6 represents 100% homosexual) If you’re curious as to where you may rest on this scale, here’s a link to a site that developed a test to assess your possible position on it.
WARNING! Loads of opinion is in the rest of this post!
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How To Overcome Any Fear


Fear is just another emotion that is a part of life. If we did not have fear we would either die doing something stupid, or never really live to begin with. After all, what is living without the knowledge of risk? However, when that fear is crippling and all consuming or even when that fear just interrupts your daily life, it is a problem. Here’s how to overcome fear in 4 steps:
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What Music Can Reveal About Yourself


Psychologists have realized that a person’s preference in music can often lead to a fairly accurate prediction of their personality. Often your favorite music style gives away your own style and attitude. This chart compares 13 different types of music and the characteristics their listeners commonly share. The similarities between two music genres mean an increased likelihood of similar enthusiasts as well. For instance, soul and blues listeners produced the same results while rock and classical fans proved to have very opposing characteristics.  Continue reading